I am alone in the universe! Well, except for all of those other people. Who irritate me. So, after my rage passed, and I had words with my friend about how I was feeling USED, *she* had a chance to respond and said some very true and also very nice things. Like that she meant to research our options, but since she’s either in class or working all the time, it was hard for her to do so, and also that she didn’t mean to make me do all the work (or feel like I had to), and had really been looking forward to spending her one day off in 16 weeks with me. Which, as you might expect, made me feel like a complete and total asshole. Who only sees her side of things.
It reminds me of when one of my very young coworkers started a few years ago and was constantly offending other staff by accident, just because she didn’t know how to approach them with suggestions/etc. in a way that didn’t make it look like she thought they were bad at their jobs. TACT. We haz it. And we emailed back and forth about how to do that…and I totally need to remind myself to be HUMBLE occasionally and not so self-righteous. And to trust the freakin’ feeling that I’m pissed off partially because of HORMONES. Oh, because I was. And if I’d waited 48 hours, I might have avoided the whole mess. *sigh*
It’s hard to say. She has not always been a good friend to me. And we’ve been distant for a long time (both in time and space – living far, far apart). Last time we met up (once she figured out her GPS directions – 3 hours later than we’d planned!) we had a really good time and it seemed like she’d made a lot of changes in her life. I hope that that’s the case.
I have apologized. Because I was a bit of a near-sighted dick. I think we’re going to move on now.
Just because she has some good points does not mean your points are invalid.
Look for trends, rather than individual instances, for guidance on how to proceed.
Also, *squish*.